Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Purpose Driven Romance
The last thing singles want is more rules. But if you’re looking for an intentional, God-pleasing game plan for finding a future spouse, Joshua Harris delivers an appealing one. A compelling new foreword, an all-new “8 Great Courtship Conversations” section, and updated material throughout makes this five-year revision of the original Boy Meets Girl a must-have! Harris illustrates how biblical courtship—a healthy, joyous alternative to recreational dating—worked for him and his wife. Boy Meets Girl presents an inspiring, practical example for readers wanting to pursue the possibility of marriage with someone they may be serious about.
Are you ready for “romance with purpose”?
If you’re fed up with self-centered relationships that end in disillusionment, it’s time to rethink romance. Finding the loving, committed relationship you want shouldn’t mean throwing away your hopes, your integrity, or your heart.
In Boy Meets Girl, Joshua Harris —the guy who kissed dating goodbye—makes the case for courtship. As old-fashioned as it might sound, courtship is what modern day relationships desperately need. Think of it as romance chaperoned by wisdom, cared for by community, and directed by God’s Word.
Filled with inspiring stories from men and women who have rediscovered courtship, Boy Meets Girl is honest, romantic, and refreshingly biblical. Keep God at the center of your relationship as you discover how to:
• Set a clear course for your romance
• Get closer without compromise
• Find support in a caring community
• Deal with past sexual sin
• Make the right decisions about your future
New! Courtship Conversations
Eight ideas for great dates that will help grow and guide your relationship.
Story Behind the Book
“I wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye to challenge singles to drop the worldly approach to serial dating and reconsider the way they pursued romance in light of God’s Word. Since then, I’ve received letters asking questions like, So, what comes between friendship and marriage? and, How can you know when you are ready for marriage? Boy Meets Girl answers those questions. Now as a happily married man I can look back on my courtship with Shannon and see from personal experience that God is faithful. If you trust Him enough to wait on romance in dating, He will lovingly guide you as you pursue it in courtship…right to that wonderful moment when you kneel together at the altar.” — Joshua Harris
emotional dependence on each other. Your goal is to point each other to Him. All the ideas shared for growing in fellowship have to be guarded from abuse. We should never use spiritual activities as a way to grab for more intimacy than is appropriate for our relationship. One couple I know wound up in sexual sin as a result of their extended times of “prayer” in his car. Others use the facade of “talking about spiritual things” to share very private details about themselves prematurely. Although
Hendrickson and I had been friends for about a year. We worked in the same office. She was a secretary and I was an intern. The first thing I noticed about Shannon was her eyes—they were a bluish, greenish, gray color, and they sparkled when she smiled. The second thing was how tiny she was. Exactly five feet tall, Shannon defines the word petite. I liked that. Since I was only five foot six myself, a girl who actually looked up into my eyes was a rare find. I caught my first glimpse of her on
demanding gratification. Part of the beauty of a Christian marriage between two partners who have not known each other sexually is the discovery and mutual learning experience. “I don’t plan to be an ‘expert in bed’ when I get married,” I told the girl who had written me. And that shouldn’t be anyone’s goal. Our main concern as Christians should be purity before God, not being experienced lovers when we get married. The world has turned sex into a sport to be scored and evaluated like figure
the right words. Consider writing out your thoughts beforehand so you can make sure to communicate clearly. If there are any ways in which you feel you have misled or hurt the other person, humbly confess it and ask for forgiveness. It’s also important that you be clear about the status of the relationship. If the courtship is over, make sure the other person understands that you’re not just putting it on pause. My friend John was vague when he ended his courtship. For more than a year the girl
the ground, his heart pounding. Good grief! At this rate he’d rouse the whole neighborhood. He clenched his teeth at the thought of waking someone inside Christy’s house. What if her dad came out to investigate and discovered him? What explanation could he possibly give his ex-girlfriend’s father for being in his front yard with a shovel at 3 A.M.? He tried not to think about it. Rich held his breath and waited. A minute passed, and no one in the house stirred. All was quiet. Slowly he stood up